I learned early on.
Women belong on top.
She initiated.
She mounted.
She owned my orgasm.
I was beguiled.
And from that moment on, I knew I liked sexually assertive women. For me, it all just made sense. Women knew what they wanted and who was I to get in the way? I loved the idea of being used to serve (and submit) to the needs of my (superior) female partner. I liked how she was in control, handling my penis, sliding it into her vagina and then taking her pleasure while admonishing me to maintain composure and not ejaculate until given permission. Looking up at her, her breasts full and firm, hips gyrating as she moved upon me, touching her clit, arching her body for maximum pleasure as she took ownership of her orgasm. And with luck, and a fair amount of stamina, I would be benevolently rewarded for maintaining my composure and erection — anxiously awaiting her permission for release as I processed her innate authority and command of me. Yes, intercourse is grand and women on top and in charge is grander.
From my earliest days of dating and sex I have gravitated to sexually assertive women — and why not? They’re so damn sexy and don’t they know it! Redefining my personality and outlook to become a sincere, secure and proud submissive man seemed like the perfect path for me. Dominant women hold tremendous appeal on a variety of levels — from social to sexual. But my outlook on what works for me, is a bit more nuanced than what most mainstream femdom looks like — at least from where I’m sitting. Yes, I love and adore serving and submitting to strong assertive women; yet I do not equate female dominance with pain, humiliation or abuse. For me, this is all about honoring women — but in a the context of a longterm loving relationship where we’re both free to express ourselves yet default to the main premise that the woman is ultimately in charge.
I was leaving a monthly meeting of The Eulenspiegel Society — attending one of their femdom nights at their former meeting spot on Bond Street in lower Manhattan — when I noticed a couple come out just ahead of me. They were in their 40’s or so, good looking and well-matched. She was sexy, tall and had presence — and then I watched as she put her hand on her male partner’s ass as they walked down the street ahead of me. She was comfortably in control and he didn’t have any problem with it. And why not? After a 90 plus minute session of discussing female assertiveness and dominance, I’m sure she was feeling fully empowered. And doesn’t sexual assertiveness look good on a woman! I like how that looks and feels: being touched, led, even objectified by an assertive woman. And what I offer in response is my full acceptance of her leadership and authority. I offer my passivity and obedience. I want to encourage women to take the initiative and know that men appreciate it, adore it and accept it. We wish to be ruled by Women.
