What triggers a woman to explore her innate dominance and rethink relationships and power dynamics; to choose to be served and submitted to by a sincere submissive man? There are some very thoughtful and articulate women who have no problem expressing their expectations for men privileged to be in their sphere. One such woman, Ms. Christina — an artist, feminist and dominant woman extraordinaire, who speaks truth to female power — shared her enlightened path of feminine leadership of men. For Ms. Christina, and remarkable women like her, passive and pleasing, ego-free subservient men who are proactively focused on the needs, desires and pleasure of women, is all it takes to unleash their power and benevolent dominance. Her words follow:
“I like men who submit to my decisions about our interaction and ask and wait for my permission to do things. What turns me on in a man is when he approaches me to tend to my pleasure and waits for my direction as to how to do so, and then waits for my approval to continue. A male who acknowledges my honor and desirability does so by looking for my feedback as to how he is doing at being pleasurable for me, and he acknowledges this attitude towards me to others, because he wants to be desirable in my eyes as well. This is what makes a male a “man” instead of a boy, because he does not need to tend to his ego when he is around me; his sense of manhood comes from his ability to serve my interests and respond to me, not his ego. This distinguishes a man who knows how to honor me completely from a man who enjoys humiliation. I don’t enjoy S/M submission from a man, or his fixation on being insulted. If there is any “punishment” for displeasing me, it would be unpleasant for the man but not harmful, and it would only be to mend a disruption in his respectful attitude towards me. I believe a true man has the social values and interpersonal disciplines of female culture, while still retaining masculine physical and physiological assets that distinguish them from women; this kind of manhood in action would seem more ‘feminine’ in social and psychological behavior compared to the socially marketed image of manhood, but it actually comes off as quite balanced and noble to most people, I think.
I believe female solidarity is the key ingredient that will turn the signs of female leadership in our culture into an actual movement. I am one of those women who puts support for women first in my relationships and lifestyle, although I am completely heterosexual and love men. I choose to model loyalty to women and favoring them in attention, and I model it primarily for them to emulate, and next for men to learn from. It is the only way to really help and inspire anyone to do what’s best for them, demonstration that is. I also think that this is probably the most effective way a submissive man can seduce a woman into taking a leadership position, mainly because I have heard the success of this technique from submissive men, as well as from Elise Sutton, and also because I myself use demonstration as much as or more than logic and words to teach men how to follow me, whether I’m dating them or not.”
